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Navigating the Legal Landscape: A Guide to Egg Donation & Surrogacy Laws for Gay Dads

For a growing number of gay dads, egg donation and surrogacy can be a way to grow a family. However, the laws governing these options can vary from state to state, and it's important to understand the legal landscape before pursuing either route. In this article, we’ll discuss some things to know as you begin your journey.

Can gay men legally become parents?

Gay men can absolutely become parents, but the legal landscape surrounding LGBTQ+ parenting rights can be complex, and there are still some challenges that gay dads may unfortunately face. You’ll need a great lawyer who knows the specific laws of your state (if you work with Cofertility, we can help you find one).

There are no federal laws that prevent gay men from using donor eggs and a gestational carrier, but the laws can vary depending on the state. Some states have laws that specifically prohibit surrogacy arrangements, or only allow it when both parents are genetically related to the child. Other states make it difficult to get both parents on the birth certificate.

Surrogacy and egg donation laws by state

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) has a comprehensive guide to surrogacy laws across the United States. The guide outlines the surrogacy laws for each state, including whether surrogacy is legal, the type of surrogacy arrangements permitted, the eligibility criteria for intended parents and gestational carriers, and any specific legal requirements, such as pre-birth orders or post-birth adoption procedures.

In general, the states that are currently most difficult (or impossible!) include:

Arizona expressly prohibits surrogacy. Arizona courts sometimes grant pre-birth parentage orders when both the Intended Parents are genetically related to the child. If an egg donor is used and at least one of the Intended Parents is genetically related to the child, a pre-birth order may be possible, depending on the judge. Second-parent adoptions are also prohibited in Arizona.
Indiana law makes gestational surrogacy contracts void and unenforceable as against public policy. While some courts have begun issuing pre-birth parentage orders, they are usually not granted if an egg donor was used.
Louisiana only allows surrogacy for married heterosexual couples who are both genetically related to the child (i.e., neither a sperm or egg donor was used).
Michigan considers surrogacy contracts to be void and unenforceable. Courts may still grant pre-birth orders if no payment or compensation has been made to the surrogate, but they will not allow second-parent adoptions.
Nebraska considers surrogacy contracts to be void and unenforceable, however “the language of the statute does allow surrogacy practice in limited scenarios”.

Remember that laws can be complex and change at any time, so it's crucial to consult with an experienced reproductive lawyer to ensure you understand the legal implications in your specific situation. If you work with Cofertility, we can help you find a great lawyer to help navigate this process.

What is second-parent adoption?

Even if a child is biologically related to one of the dads, without a legal adoption, the non-biological parent may not have any legal parenting rights to their child. This means that if the biological parent passes away or becomes incapacitated, the non-biological parent, even if they have been an equal parent, may not have any legal rights to parenting. This is where second-parent adoption comes in.

In some states, the non-biological parent may be able to establish legal parentage through a pre-birth order or a marriage or domestic partnership. However, second-parent adoption is often the most secure way for non-biological parents to establish their parental rights and ensure that their child is legally protected.

Individual state laws surrounding this process can be complex. The National Center for Lesbian Rights has a great PDF outlining Adoption by LGBT Parents. The states that make it hardest for unmarried same-sex couples include:

Alabama
Arizona
Kansas
Kentucky
Mississippi
Nebraska
North Carolina
Ohio
Utah
Wisconsin

It is essential to work with an experienced attorney who can guide you through the legal landscape and ensure that your family is protected.

The good news is that "parentage" laws are passing in many states that legally protect LGBTQ+ families. These laws recognize a non-biological parent as a legal parent without requiring a costly and time-consuming second parent adoption process.

What is a pre-birth order?

A pre-birth order is a legal document that establishes the intended parents as the legal parents of a child before the child is born. Without a pre-birth order, the state law would presume that the person giving birth is the biological and legal parent of the child.

A pre-birth order is important because it ensures that your parental rights are established from the moment of birth. The laws surrounding pre-birth orders vary by state, and the requirements for obtaining one can be complex. In some states, like Alabama, the intended parents must be married in order to obtain a pre-birth order.

Summing it up

If there’s anything to take away from this article, it’s the importance of working with an experienced attorney (we can introduce you to one!) who is familiar with the laws in your state to ensure that your parental rights are protected. Your attorney can help guide you through the process of obtaining a pre-birth order and ensure that all necessary legal requirements are met. We wish you all the best!

‍Cofertility is a human-first fertility ecosystem rewriting the egg freezing and egg donation experience. Our Family by Co platform serves as a more transparent, ethical egg donor matching platform. We are obsessed with improving the family-building journey — today or in the future — and are in an endless pursuit to make these experiences more positive. Create a free account today!

Surrogacy

The Ultimate Guide to Egg Donation and Surrogacy for Gay Men

‍Building a family is a dream for many couples, and for gay dads, egg donation and surrogacy can be a great way to bring a child into their lives. However, the process can be complex and overwhelming, especially for those who are new to it. In this article, we'll answer some common questions that hopeful gay dads often ask us about egg donation and surrogacy.

At Cofertility, we believe in the equal right to parent. LGBTQ+ families have historically faced more rigorous scrutiny and challenges than heterosexual families regarding their rights to be or become parents, including discriminatory laws making it difficult in some states for both parents to be on the birth certificate. We stand by protections for LGBTQ+ parents and their children, and support all families equally.

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Building a family is a dream for many couples, and for gay dads, egg donation and surrogacy can be a great way to bring a child into their lives. However, the process can be complex and overwhelming, especially for those who are new to it. In this article, we'll answer some common questions that hopeful gay dads often ask us about egg donation and surrogacy.

What comes first, finding the surrogate or the egg donor?

This is a common question among those considering egg donation and surrogacy. Both the egg donor and surrogate are essential for the process, and in most cases, it’s recommended to start by matching with an egg donor and making embryos.

This is because many surrogacy agencies usually cannot sign up families who do not yet have healthy embryos to transfer. Gestational carriers are in high demand and they don’t want to wait months after matching in order to start the transfer process. On the other hand, once you have embryos made through donor eggs, those can be frozen and used at any point in the future.

You could also begin the search for a gestational carrier and an egg donor at the same time, knowing that the waitlist for a gestational carrier is far longer than the process to get donor eggs.

Are you able to use both of our sperm?

Yes, there are a couple of ways we’ve seen this done! When the eggs are retrieved, the clinic can fertilize half of them with one partner’s sperm, and the other half with the other partner’s sperm. However, this doesn’t guarantee the same number of embryos from each partner since fertilization rates can vary depending on a variety of factors (including sperm health). Sometimes it’s recommended that couples undergo two egg retrievals with the same donor to increase the chances of multiple embryos from each partner.

We’ve also seen biracial couples find two donors – one that looks like each partner. They then fertilize the eggs with the sperm of the other partner.

How are egg donors screened?

Our team screens egg donors through a rigorous, multi-step process to ensure each person is qualified and prepared to become an egg donor, going above and beyond FDA and ASRM-recommended screening guidelines. Before donors can be listed on our platform, we review their personal and family medical history and collect information on their lifestyle and behavioral habits. Most importantly, we meet 1:1 with every donor to get at the core of who she is as a person — her values, her goals, her personality. This allows us to provide you with the most thoughtful match possible.

Once you move forward with a match, the donor will undergo a physical examination, psychological evaluation, and full genetic screen. Your doctor will review these results and give us the green light to move forward. We will also ensure that donors are screened for background and education checks.

How do you find an egg donor?

The first step is to fill out a short form in which you share more about your family and what you’re looking for in an egg donor. You’ll then gain free and immediate access to our matching platform.

You can search our platform by many attributes, including education, race, height, hair color, and other features. Browse the profiles and learn more about the incredible donors we work with. We’re able to recruit the best donors because our unique model empowers women to take control of their own reproductive health while giving you the gift of a lifetime. Our donors aren’t doing it for cash – they keep half the eggs retrieved for their own future use, and donate half to your family.

When you’ve found a donor you want to move forward with, press the “Place a Hold” button at the top of her profile. From there, you’ll put down a $500 deposit to place a hold on that match.

How long does it take to match with an egg donor?

The timeline can vary, but in total the process from match to cycle with Cofertility is generally be two to four months. Once you create a free account, you’ll gain access to our matching platform and can start to learn more about our donors. After you match with a Split member (who will be freezing her eggs and donating half to your family), we begin the process of scheduling her screening and testing with your clinic, which generally takes a few weeks. Once your doctor gives the go-ahead, we’d set a date for the cycle at a time that is mutually convenient.

You may decide to fertilize the embryos as soon as the eggs are retrieved or you can freeze the eggs and thaw them to be fertilized at a later date. If you do create embryos at the s of retrieval, they can be frozen in storage until you match with a surrogate or are ready to move forward with the transfer.

How are surrogates screened?

This depends on the agency. Ideally, surrogates undergo extensive screening to ensure that they are physically and emotionally capable of participating in the egg donation and surrogacy process. Screening typically involves medical tests, background checks, and psychological evaluations. Potential surrogates are also required to provide detailed medical and personal histories.

The screening process helps ensure that the surrogate is a good candidate for the process and that there are no potential health or psychological risks.

How are surrogates matched?

Surrogacy is a little different from matching with an egg donor. Generally, you will tell the agency your preferences including health history, personality traits, and geographic location. After getting off the waitlist, the agency will share a profile of a gestational carrier who fits your profile. You will meet the surrogate to see if it’s a mutual match, and if so, go from there.

How long does it take to match with a surrogate?

The process of matching with a surrogate varies in length and may depend on a variety of factors, including the location and availability of surrogates, your preferences and requirements, and the legal and medical requirements involved in the surrogacy process based on your state. In general, the process of finding a surrogate may take several months to a year.

What type of testing is necessary before treatment?

Before beginning moving forward with treatment, both partners will need to undergo some medical and psychological tests. It ultimately depends on the clinic and the requirements of your state, and may include blood tests, semen analysis, psychological screening, and physical exams.

These tests will help determine if there are any underlying medical conditions that may affect the success of the treatment. And the psychological tests are also necessary to ensure that both partners are mentally prepared for the emotional journey of surrogacy and egg donation.

Can we both legally be parents?

How can I find an LGBTQ+ friendly clinic?

We can help! Finding a fertility clinic that is LGBTQ+ friendly can be important for gay couples who are considering egg donation and surrogacy.

We have a network of fertility clinic partners that are as dedicated to serving LGBTQ+ families as we are. We’ll ensure your family is treated with the care and respect you deserve as you embark on this exciting journey.

Why you should work with Cofertility

We are honored that you are considering us as part of your family-building journey. As you can see, we’re doing things differently around here!

Family by Co is our human-centered matching platform for intended parents pursuing egg donation. We are obsessed with improving the family-building journey — today or in the future — and are in an endless pursuit to make these experiences more positive.

Here’s how we’re different:

Baby guarantee. We truly want to help you bring your baby home, and we will re-match you for free until that happens.
Donor empowerment. In our unique Split model, donors aren’t doing it for money. They get to keep half of the eggs retrieved, empowering them to preserve their own fertility, while lifting you up on your own journey. It’s a win-win.
Human-centered. We didn’t like the status quo in egg donation. So we’re doing things differently, starting with our human-centered matching platform.
Lifetime support. A match is just the beginning. We offer families access to educational modules, support groups, and communication tools for life.

Part of serving families is recognizing the unique life experiences of the humans we’re helping bring into this world. These children are so precious and wanted, and the world is just starting to understand the nuances of not sharing genetics with one’s parents. This is why we provide families with evidence-based tips and guidance for raising happy, healthy donor-conceived children, as well as tools for families and donors to communicate at a mutually-agreed upon level.

Please reach out if we can help!

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Genetics

Gay Men Having Babies: Four Genetic Options with Donor Eggs

For gay dads who wish to have a genetically connected child, choosing whose sperm to use is an important decision. It involves considerations of genetics, personal preferences, legal, and ethical aspects. In this article, we will delve into various ways gay dads can navigate this decision and explore four options we’ve seen for family building through egg donation.

Option 1: One egg donor, half the eggs are fertilized by each partner

In this option, a single egg donor is selected, and the eggs retrieved from the donor are split between both partners for fertilization. Each partner's sperm is used to fertilize an equal number of eggs.

At that point, you could simply pick the highest quality embryo to transfer, regardless of who is the genetic father (or not find out the genetic linkage at all). Or, if you want to have more than one child, you could pick one embryo from each dad. In this option, if you have more than one child, those siblings would be genetically related to each other.

Option 2: Different egg donor for each partner

In this option, two egg donors are chosen—one who resembles each partner physically or in certain desired traits. Then, the other partner’s sperm fertilizes the eggs. Each partner's chosen egg donor provides the eggs for fertilization, allowing for a potential resemblance between the child and both partners.

We often see this strategy in bi-racial relationships. For example, if one partner is Black and the other is Korean, they could find two egg donors, one Black and one Korean. The Black dad would fertilize the eggs of the Korean egg donor, and vice versa. In this method, the children have the same ethnicity (in this example, that would be half Black and half Korean).

This option offers the potential for the child to share physical or desired traits with both partners, and each partner has a direct genetic link to a child through their respective egg donor. However, any siblings would not be genetically related to each other.

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Option 3: Family member serves as egg donor

This option involves using a family member, such as the sister or cousin of one partner, as the egg donor. The eggs retrieved from the family member are fertilized with the sperm from the other partner, creating a familial genetic connection between the child and both partners.

This option maintains a strong genetic link to each partner's family, potentially providing a sense of connection and belonging. However, introducing family members into the reproductive process could add emotional and familial complexities that need to be carefully considered.

Option 4: “Trade-sies” with a same-sex female couple for egg and sperm sharing

In this option, which one parent told us they called “trade-sies”, a same-sex male couple can collaborate with a same-sex female couple who are also interested in starting a family through IVF.

One of the female partners from the lesbian couple can donate eggs, while one of the male partners from the gay couple can donate sperm. The two families would divide the resulting embryos. For the gay dads, the embryos would be transferred to a gestational carrier.

This option allows both the gay dads and the lesbian couple to share in the journey of starting a family, creating a unique and supportive bond. This arrangement can foster long-lasting connections between the families involved, creating a broader support network for the child(ren).

Partnering with another couple involves intricate legal arrangements, such as co-parenting agreements, to establish parental rights and responsibilities. As with any co-parenting arrangement, there is a possibility of differences or conflicts arising in the future, which may require ongoing communication and cooperation to navigate successfully.

Find an egg donor through Cofertility

Our Family by Co platform honors families and egg donors with a thoughtful, human-centered egg donor matching experience. Our unique egg sharing model empowers egg donors to take control of their own reproductive health while giving families the gift of a lifetime. Instead of cash compensation, our donors get to keep half of the eggs retrieved.

Why Cofertility:

Egg donors you won’t find anywhere else: Our unique model removes cash compensation from the equation — and as a result, the incredible women on our platform are all ambitious, educated, kind, and eager to help other families while investing in their own reproductive future.
Diversity: We’re proud about the fact that the donors on our platform are as diverse as the intended parents seeking to match with them. We work with intended parents to understand their own cultural values — including regional nuances — in hopes of finding them the perfect match.
Community: Our Family by Co Community (coming soon!) will be a safe space for intended parents of all kinds to connect, support each other, and gain access to exclusive member resources, experts, and events.
Lifetime support: Historically, other egg donation options have treated egg donor matching as a one-and-done experience. Beyond matching, beyond a pregnancy, beyond a birth…we believe in supporting the donor-conceived family for life. Our resources and education provide intended parents with the guidance they need to raise happy, healthy kids and celebrate their origin stories.

We started this company with the vision of serving all families, regardless of what brought them here. And we promise to provide you with the care we would want for our families. With our commitment to transparency, inclusivity, and innovation, we are striving to be the best in the industry.

Our Split model empowers donors and enables families to find the egg donor perfect match quickly and easily, setting a new standard for excellence in our field. Whether you are just getting educated on egg donation or ready to move forward, we want to help you achieve your goals and build the family of your dreams.

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Donor eggs

How Do I Know If I Need Donor Eggs?

Whether you are someone who is struggling with infertility or other reproductive issues, or you’re a single male or gay male couple who hopes to have biological children, you may be considering donor eggs as an option for your family-building goals. While this can be a challenging time, it's important to know that there are options available to help you achieve your dreams of starting a family.

But first, you may be asking yourself “how do I know if I need donor eggs?” While there are a number of reasons one may turn to egg donation for their family-building, in this article we will discuss some of the most common scenarios.

I’m struggling with infertility

Infertility affects about 1 in 8 couples worldwide, and sometimes it can be due to the quality of the eggs. As we age, our eggs decrease in quantity and quality, making it more challenging to conceive. If you have been trying to conceive for a year or more without success, and your doctor has confirmed that there may be an egg quality or quantity issue, then donor eggs may be an option for you.

I’m a single or gay dad

While heterosexual couples or women often find out later in life that they need to pursue egg donation, gay or single men are typically in a different situation, in that they have always known they would need donor eggs in order to have a biological child.

While not all people will find this to be a priority to them, working with an egg donor and a surrogate allows gay and single men the opportunity to have a genetic link to their child, which is one reason you may consider egg donation over adoption to grow your family.

I'm over 40

If you are over 40 and struggling with infertility, using donor eggs may provide you with a better chance of success. Donor eggs are generally from qualified egg donors who are between the ages of 23-34, which can increase the chances of successful fertilization, pregnancy, and delivery. If you are over 40 and have been trying to conceive without success, you may consider using donor eggs to achieve your dream of parenthood.

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I’ve been diagnosed with Premature ovarian failure (POF)

Premature ovarian failure (POF) is a condition in which the ovaries stop functioning before the age of 40. Those with POF have reduced or no ovarian function, making it difficult or impossible to conceive with your own eggs. If you have POF, you may be a candidate for using donor eggs, as your own eggs may not be viable for conception. Donor eggs can provide you with a higher chance of a successful pregnancy and delivery.

I had chemotherapy and/or radiation

Cancer treatments such as chemotherapy and radiation can damage the ovaries and reduce or eliminate the chances of conceiving with your own eggs. If you have had cancer treatment and your fertility has been affected, you may consider using donor eggs to achieve pregnancy. Donor eggs provide a higher chance of success compared to using your own eggs after cancer treatment.

I've had repeated IVF failure with my own eggs

Those who have experienced repeated IVF failure with their own eggs, even if they are still relatively young, may be a candidate for donor egg IVF. This can be due to poor egg quality or other factors. If you've tried multiple rounds of IVF without success, using donor eggs can dramatically increase your chances of bringing your baby home.

I have low ovarian reserve

Depending on your age, those with a low ovarian reserve may not produce enough viable eggs to achieve a successful pregnancy. If you’re in this boat, donor eggs can help make up for your diminishing egg quantity.

I have a genetic disorder

If you or your partner carries a genetic disorder that could be passed on to your child, using donor eggs may be an option to reduce the risk of passing on the disorder. Many genetic disorders are caused by mutations in a person's DNA, and some of these mutations can be passed down to their children. If you have been diagnosed with a genetic disorder that could be passed on to your child, using donor eggs from a donor without the genetic mutation can significantly reduce the risk of your child inheriting the disorder.

I’ve had recurrent pregnancy losses

If you have experienced recurrent pregnancy losses, using donor eggs may be an option to increase your chances of a successful pregnancy and delivery. Recurrent pregnancy loss is typically defined as the loss of two or more pregnancies, and it can be caused by a variety of factors such as genetic abnormalities, hormonal imbalances, or anatomical issues. Using donor eggs may increase the likelihood of successful fertilization and implantation, which may reduce the risk of pregnancy loss.

Cofertility can help

At Cofertility, we are striving to give you the best egg donation experience possible. We believe matching with an egg donor should be a positive experience. It sounds obvious, right? But the largely unregulated egg donation market has led to some sketchy practices. We want to bring ethics and transparency to an industry where most agencies don’t even have an "About Us" page.

If you're looking for an egg donor — for any of the reasons listed above — you may already feel like the odds are stacked against you. The last thing you need is to feel like you’re “shopping” for a human who plays a critical role in your family-building journey. And we’ll never make it feel that way.

We are honored that you are considering us as part of your family-building journey. Create a free account today to begin meeting our donors. And please reach out if we can be of any assistance!

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LGBTQ+

Top Questions to Ask Your Egg Donor Agency as a Gay Dad

For gay dads looking to start or expand their families, egg donation can be an essential part of this journey. Here's a detailed guide with some of the top questions to ask your egg donor agency as a gay dad.

The path to fatherhood is unique and full of individual choices and circumstances, and for gay dads looking to start or expand their families, egg donation can be an essential part of this journey. As you navigate the world of egg donor agencies, myriad questions might arise. Here's a detailed guide with some of the top questions to ask your egg donor agency as a gay dad.

1. Understanding the process

What is the entire egg donation process and timeline?

Understanding the full process from selecting an egg donor to implanting the embryo is crucial. Make sure the agency explains each step, the involved costs, legal aspects, and the expected timeframe.

What experience do you have with gay parents?

Understanding how the agency supports gay dads can provide valuable insights into their experience and capabilities in assisting gay couples.

Can you help me find a clinic?

Partnering with the right clinic is a critical aspect of the journey to fatherhood. Ask the agency if they have affiliations or can provide recommendations for reputable fertility clinics. Their experience and network in the field can guide you to a facility that aligns with your needs, location, and values, ensuring a cohesive and supportive process from start to finish.

2. Choosing an egg donor

What criteria are used to approve your egg donors?

Ask about the screening process, including medical, genetic, AMH, psychological, and background checks. Understanding the agency's criteria will provide you with assurance about the quality and suitability of potential donors.

Can I meet the egg donor?

This question is vital if you want to know more about the donor's personality, motivation, and background. Some agencies allow this, while others may only provide non-identifiable information. (At Cofertility, we do offer virtual match meetings).

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3. Financial aspects

What are your fees and when are they due?

The entire egg donation process can be expensive, so make sure to ask for a detailed breakdown of all costs, including the agency's fees, legal fees, and any other unexpected expenses. Keep in mind that medical expenses are usually dependent on the clinic you work with and not the egg donation agency. Learn more about Cofertility pricing here.

What payment plans or financial assistance are available?

If cost is a concern, explore payment options or if they can recommend any available financial assistance programs. At Cofertility, we've partnered with lenders to offer you fertility financial resources. Sunfish offers the most comprehensive marketplace of financial options for egg donor IVF.

How are the donor’s expenses handled?

Do they offer an escrow account to easily facilitate payments related to the donor’s egg retrieval?

What if I want to do two cycles?

Is there a reduced cost for a second cycle? At Cofertility, the answer is yes.

4. Legalities and contracts

What legal agreements are required?

Understanding the legal landscape of egg donation is paramount. Inquire about necessary contracts and whether legal consultation is provided or recommended.

What happens if the donor withdraws or can't proceed?

Make sure you understand the contingencies if the chosen donor is unable to proceed.

Do you offer a baby guarantee?

What happens if the egg donor cycle does not lead to a baby? Will the agency help match you again? (At Cofertility, the answer is YES).

If the donor is out of state, do I need to switch clinics to one near her?

Some agencies, like ours, make matches nationwide. You’ll want to know how that works if you already have an existing clinic. If you match with one of our donors, we’ll work with both parties to determine the best place to conduct her testing, monitoring, and retrieval. In some cases, we will complete the donor’s testing and monitoring at a clinic close to her home to eliminate travel and can have the eggs shipped to your clinic. In other cases, donors will travel to your clinic for the retrieval.

5. Other important details

How does your agency support the donor?

Understanding how the egg donor is supported throughout the process is a reflection of the agency's professionalism and care. Ask about the educational, medical, and emotional support provided to the donors, including counseling, support, and follow-up care. This question ensures that you align with an agency that respects and takes proper care of all parties involved in this deeply personal process.

What emotional support is available?

The journey to parenthood through egg donation can be emotionally taxing. Ask about available counseling or support groups that are sensitive to the unique needs of gay dads.

What are the agency's ethical policies?

Understanding the agency's stance on ethical issues, such as compensation for donors, informed consent, and privacy, is crucial.

Are you part of SEEDS or any other industry organizations?

SEEDS is a nonprofit organization founded by a group of egg donation and surrogacy agencies, whose purpose is to define and promote ethical behavior by all parties involved in third party reproduction. Cofertility is a proud member.

Choosing to create a family through egg donation is a beautiful journey, and as a gay dad, you may face unique questions and considerations. The above guide can help you navigate the sometimes complex world of egg donation, but remember, these questions are just a starting point.

Every family's journey is different, and you may have concerns specific to your situation. Don't hesitate to ask those questions, too. Open communication with your chosen agency is vital in ensuring that they can meet your individual needs and expectations.

As you embark on this incredible journey to fatherhood, arm yourself with knowledge, seek support where needed, and trust in the professionals guiding your path. The road may be complex, but the joy of holding your child in your arms is a destination that promises to make the entire journey worthwhile.

Remember, becoming a parent is not just about genetics; it's about love, commitment, and the capacity to provide a nurturing environment. Your decision to explore egg donation is a significant step toward fulfilling your dream of fatherhood, and asking the right questions will help you make informed and confident choices along the way.

Find an amazing egg donor at Cofertility

At Cofertility, our program is unique. After meeting with hundreds of intended parents, egg donors, and donor-conceived people, we decided on an egg donation model that we think best serves everyone involved: egg sharing.

Here’s how it works: our unique model empowers women to take control of their own reproductive health while giving you the gift of a lifetime. Our donors aren’t doing it for cash – they keep half the eggs retrieved for their own future use, and donate half to your family.

We aim to be the best egg sharing program, providing an experience that honors, respects, and uplifts everyone involved. Here’s what sets us apart:

Human-centered. We didn’t like the status quo in egg donation. So we’re doing things differently, starting with our human-centered matching platform.
Donor empowerment. Our model empowers donors to preserve their own fertility, while lifting you up on your own journey. It’s a win-win.
Diversity: We’re proud about the fact that the donors on our platform are as diverse as the intended parents seeking to match with them. We work with intended parents to understand their own cultural values — including regional nuances — in hopes of finding them the perfect match.
Baby guarantee. We truly want to help you bring your baby home, and we will re-match you for free until that happens.
Lifetime support: Historically, other egg donation options have treated egg donor matching as a one-and-done experience. Beyond matching, beyond a pregnancy, beyond a birth…we believe in supporting the donor-conceived family for life. Our resources and education provide intended parents with the guidance they need to raise happy, healthy kids and celebrate their origin stories.

We are obsessed with improving the family-building journey — today or in the future — and are in an endless pursuit to make these experiences more positive. Create a free account to get started today!

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