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Trying to get pregnant can feel like you’re testing your sanity one day at a time. There’s just so. much. waiting. We know this because we’ve been there too. But fear not, TTC friends! we’ve got something that’ll help you get through the wait—a list of some of the best fertility books out there, tested and approved by us.
Why read fertility books when you’re already totally consumed by infertility, you may ask? We’re so glad you asked.
You might be super early on in your journey. Or you may feel like you could actually write a book on infertility at this point. Either way, you can never know too much about your fertility, and odds are, you’ll probably learn something new by reading a book on the topic.
Infertility sucks. So let’s let it all out. Reading a book about infertility can allow you to acknowledge the pain you’re feeling about what you’ve been going through (which is a hell of a lot) and help you let some of it go.
It can bring on the LOLs
As infertility warriors, we do enough crying. Reading certain fertility books, however, can help us do just the opposite. We’re already caught up on every season of Real Housewives, so…we’ll take all the additional distractions we can get. When it comes to infertility, getting real can feel really good.
We’ve rounded up the 10 best fertility books—in our opinion—for you to check out. Take a look here and click each title to learn more.
In her first book, Amy Klein, author of the New York Times’ “Fertility Diary” blog, dives into the emotional and practical process of trying to get pregnant. And she just…gets it. There’s so much to be said for a book with empathy, and that’s exactly what The Trying Game is.
We love that Klein positions this as the book she wished she’d had when trying to get pregnant—because that’s exactly what this feels like. Basically, it’s what to expect when you’re not expecting. And it KEEPS. IT. REAL.
You may already know Karen Jeffries from Instagram, but if you don’t, give her account, @hilariously_infertile, a follow. Jeffries is our kind of girl, who tackles infertility head-on with honesty and humor as she chronicles her own infertility treatment.
As the title implies, this book will have you laughing out loud, with lots of “OMG—yes” sprinkled throughout. Read this as a palate cleanser before getting into the serious stuff.
Maybe you need the opposite of a good laugh and the only thing that’ll make you feel better is a good cry. Hey, we’ve been there. This book is the paperback equivalent of a sensitive, comforting, warm hug: there for you when you’re feeling alone and like nobody else gets it. Read it all the way through or pick it up on days when you need a pick-me-up of your own.
4. It Starts with the Egg: How the Science of Egg Quality Can Help You Get Pregnant Naturally, Prevent Miscarriage, and Improve Your Odds in IVF
If you haven’t yet heard of this book, we’re honored to be the messenger. It Starts with the Egg is a well-known best-seller that dives deep into the topic of egg quality and how to improve it.
In this book, Rebecca Fett provides tons of scientific research as backup for her comprehensive program to improve egg quality in three months. She tackles subjects like environmental toxins, vitamins and supplements, and nutritional impact upon IVF success rates. If you’re looking to read something actionable and are motivated to make some changes—this book is definitely for you.
5. Two Dads and Three Girls: Searching for Sexual Identity, Falling in Love, and Building a Family through Surrogacy
This book covers a lot. In Two Dads and Three Girls, Nick (Yu) He shares an autobiographical account of growing up in China, immigrating to America, coming out and ultimately, marrying his husband and having three girls via surrogacy. Cultural pressures meets societal pressures—who can relate? *raises hand*
Whether you personally empathize with He’s journey or not, this story is super moving and provides an inspiring look at the strength of the human spirit. If anything, we can all relate to having hurdles in the way of having the family we dream of. Hopefully, He’s powerful story provides some hope.
Okay, so technically this is a coloring book vs. one you can actually read. But studies have shown the stress-relieving benefits of coloring are akin to those of meditation and other mindfulness exercises so…we can get on board with that.
This coloring book pokes some PG13 fun at the world of infertility while providing a therapeutic release. Win-win.
Whether you’re a believer in Traditional Chinese Medicine or an eye-rolling skeptic, Energy Medicine provides a deep dive into energy medicine and how it has been used for thousands of years to diagnose and treat illnesses. In this book, Dr. Blakeway goes on a journey to better understand the power of energy medicine and bridge science and spirituality. If anything else, it can be a soothing read during, well, let’s say, less-than-soothing times.
Dr. Jill Blakeway, who was described by The New York Times as a “fertility goddess” is one of Manhattan’s top acupuncturists and founder of The YinOva Center. So, yeah…she’s legit, and so is her book.
We love this book because it keeps it real about the IVF process from both a woman’s and a man’s perspective. As a couple going through IVF after two and a half years, Richard Mackney and Rosie Bray provide a step-by-step survival guide to IVF. In this book, each chapter includes different perspectives, experiences, and advice for both partners.
Not only does Get a Life share educational tidbits about IVF based on personal experience; it also addresses the emotional side of infertility and can help you and your partner communicate better throughout the process. A note to the reader: Mackney and Bray’s experience was UK-based—so some of the information may not apply if you’re in the U.S. But it remains on our list, because other parts had us thinking, “who wrote this book about my life?”
9. WomanCode: Perfect Your Cycle, Amplify Your Fertility, Supercharge Your Sex Drive, and Become a Power Source
If your hormones are feeling out of whack—hellooo, fertility drugs!—you need to read this book. Written by Alisa Vitti, WomanCode is the bible of hormone education that just might help you get those hormonal symptoms under control.
This book provides a plan of diet and lifestyle changes that claim to help aid infertility, cycle irregularity, mental health issues, and low sex drive. Let’s face it: you’ve probably already used your fair share of meds; it’s probably worth exploring some other factors that may impact your fertility, too.
When you’re dealing with infertility, waiting sucks. And yet, you seem to do a hell of a lot of it—waiting for test results, waiting for doctor phone calls, waiting to start a new cycle…the list goes on. In The Art of Waiting, Belle Boggs illustrates just how tough infertility can be. But this book makes our list because it goes on to provide commentary on reproductive culture in American society. It’s a “big picture” kind of book for sure, and one that makes you think.
Trying to have a baby is hard. Unfortunately, for LGBTQ couples, it can be even harder. In this book, Eric Rosswood discusses the hurdles faced by LGBTQ couples during family-building, and goes into depth on adoption, foster care, ART, surrogacy, and co-parenting.
We love this book because it is both informational and anecdotal. Journey to Same-Sex Parenthood will give you the cold, hard facts (like legal considerations)—but it’ll also give you personal stories from couples and individuals who have been there.
Get those pages turning
When it comes to fertility reads, those are some of our faves. But we want to hear from you. What did we miss? Any favorite books on fertility that we left out? Sound off in the comments, and consider this your virtual fertility book club.