How Can I Find the Best Egg Donor Out There?

Choosing to use donor eggs to grow your family is a big decision, and it’s natural to want to find the best possible donor. But what does “best” even mean? For some, it’s a donor who shares their cultural background or physical traits. For others, it’s someone with a specific educational background or personality. And for many, it’s about finding a donor who aligns with their values and vision for their future family.

The truth is, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. The best egg donor for your family will depend on your unique needs, preferences, and circumstances. The good news? You have options—and we’re here to help you navigate them.

In this guide, we’ll walk you through the different ways to find an egg donor, what to consider when making your choice, and how to feel confident in your decision. Whether you’re just starting to explore donor eggs or you’re ready to begin your search, this article will give you the tools you need to move forward.

Your options for finding an egg donor

First things first: There are a few paths for finding an egg donor that can help get you started on your journey for the best egg donor for your family. It’s important to pick the right path because it can be the key to finding the best donor for you. 

Options for connecting with egg donors include: 

Asking a family member 

This is also known as a “directed donation.” There are pros and cons of having a relative donate eggs to build your family. 

On the one hand, utilizing a family member as an egg donor can provide a direct genetic link between the child and the intended parent. You may know more about the egg donor’s personality, health history, and genetics. Plus, there’s less of a mystery for the donor-conceived child about their genetic roots. 

On the other hand, introducing family members into the process of assisted reproduction can add layers of complexity to relationships and family dynamics. The decision may evoke various emotions for both the intended parent and the donor, including expectations, potential feelings of indebtedness, or impact on their relationship.

Working with an egg donation agency or egg bank

The more common path is to find an egg donor through an egg donor agency, egg bank, or fertility clinic. These organizations recruit and screen egg donors, match them with families, and support both parties throughout the process. 

Egg donor agencies generally match families and egg donors, and then the egg donor undergoes the cycle (called a “fresh” cycle). Egg banks connect intended parents to donor eggs that have already been frozen (called a “frozen” cycle). At Cofertility, we offer both fresh and frozen cycles. You can match with egg donors who are pre-qualified or those who already have frozen eggs available. 

Learn more about egg sharing

Egg sharing is a model of egg donation where instead of cash compensation, an egg donor gets to keep half of the eggs retrieved for her own future use. Initially developed to address donor egg scarcity, this practice is common in European countries like the UK, where donor compensation is illegal.

At Cofertility, we exclusively work under the egg sharing model. Our offerings provide intended parents with value-aligned choices and establish a mutually beneficial model that honors both the egg donor and the recipient(s). Instead of cash compensation, our donors receive accessible egg freezing, retaining a portion of the eggs retrieved when they donate to your family.

Here’s why we champion this model:

1. Ethical and human-centered 

In a Harvard study, it was revealed that 62% of donor-conceived adults viewed the exchange of money for donor gametes as ethically problematic, with 41% expressing discomfort regarding the monetary aspect of their conception. If cash compensation doesn't align with your values, egg sharing offers a compelling alternative that can eliminate discomfort and ethical concerns associated with treating eggs as commodities.

2. Shared outcomes

Instead of mere financial gain, our donors are motivated by a deeper desire to help others while also taking proactive steps toward their own reproductive future. They are invested in helping you, but also in achieving their own fertility goals. With a personal stake in the outcome, they’re also more committed to following protocols and less likely to conceal relevant medical information.

3. Greater donor diversity

The shortage of qualified egg donors, particularly among women of color, poses a significant challenge for diverse intended parents seeking a genetic match. Egg sharing can help address this disparity as ethical considerations and cultural acceptance may play a greater role compared to traditional cash-compensation donation. The unique structure of egg-sharing programs removes barriers and fosters a welcoming environment for women of all races and ethnicities.

4. A win-win scenario for all

Egg sharing helps intended parents grow their families while simultaneously empowering women by expanding their reproductive choices and increasing access to fertility preservation. In addition to providing women with more options and agency, research indicates that egg sharing donors consistently report higher levels of satisfaction and positive experiences, underscoring the transformative impact of this approach on donor well-being.

So how do I find the best egg donor?

Finding the right egg donor is a significant decision that needs careful thought. Here's how to approach your search:

Know what matters to you

Start by making a list of what you want in a donor. Split these into "must-haves" and "nice-to-haves." While looks might matter to you, remember that traits like intelligence, creativity, and personality come from both genes and upbringing. Consider:

• Medical history and genetic background
• Physical characteristics
• Education
• Accomplishments
• Values and personality traits
• Cultural or ethnic background
• Family history

Check your options

When choosing an egg bank, agency, or egg-sharing program, look into:

• Their donor screening process
• Medical and psychological evaluation methods
• Clear pricing and guarantees
• Support services for donors and recipients
• Reviews from past clients
• Following of industry rules and standards

Listen to your gut

While facts and figures matter, pay attention to your instincts too. You might feel drawn to a donor's profile in ways that go beyond your checklist. This feeling can mean as much as matching physical traits or education.

Think about later

Consider how you'll talk to your future child about their origins. Think about whether you want:

• A donor who can be contacted when the child turns 18
• A donor who will share updated medical information
• A donor whose values about family match yours

Read more: Understanding Your Disclosure Options at Cofertility

Take time

Don't rush this choice. You can:

• Look at many donor profiles
• Take breaks if you feel overwhelmed
• Talk options over with your partner, family, or counselor
• Ask for more details about donors you like

Final thoughts

The "best" egg donor isn't always the one with the most degrees or who looks most like you – it's someone who fits well with your family and shares your values. Work with people you trust, ask for help when you need it, and remember there's no single "right" way to build a family.

Whether you pick a traditional egg donation program or try egg sharing like Cofertility offers, choose a donor and program that feels right for your goals. With careful thinking and good support, you can find an egg donor who will help you complete your family.

This is your path to building your family. Make choices that feel right for you, your future child, and the family you want to create.

Read more:

• Nine Things To Know About Raising A Donor-Conceived Child
• Cofertility’s Fresh Vs. Frozen Egg Donation Program: Which is Right for Me?
• Should I Pick an Egg Donor Who Looks Like Me?